Hi!

(Sigh)… BSG what am I doing? It’s 3:20 am and I’m drunk and should really be asleep. Instead I’m emailing you (as usual). I don’t think I’ll be making it to the gym and I hope I make it to the Keynote at 9am.

So… What’s going on? I didn’t realize that Tinder matches based on your real-time current location. I thought that if it knows that I live in City X, it will only match me with people in my area (based on the km range I inputted). Boy was I wrong!

During last night’s reception at a conference I’m attending I was drinking and chatting up with some of the girls I met there. I was telling them about my experience with Tinder and they wanted me to show them the app and explain how it works. Well just as I was about to do that I got a notification that someone Super Liked Me. Well… I don’t get excited about these because to date everyone who has Super Liked Me to date wasn’t my type physically. So I open up the app and swipe left until I get to the guy who Super Liked Me. Well… he was a decent looking guy plus it looked like he had a son and he was my age. So to show my new conference friends how the app worked I actually swiped to the right (so that they could see how the “you’ve been matched” comes up). I didn’t think more of it as most often than not, the men don’t make the first move. Well…. a few hours later as we’re all getting comfortable to enjoy a late dinner at a local favourite I suddenly get notification that – let’s call him SG – has messaged me. So while we’re perusing the menu and making decisions SG and I text one another. Within minutes I realise that he lives in the city where I’m attending my conference. But, he still wants to meet me (the cultural connection that we have attracts him… among other things of course ;)). So I agree to meet him later that night at the hotel’s lobby bar. My new friends are privy to what’s going on and two of the women who are staying at the same hotel as I am offer to have drinks at the lobby bar and keep an eye on me/him to ensure it’s all legit and not creepy

About an hour and a half later we meet for a drink at the hotel’s lobby bar and have a fairly good conversation. Now at that point I had a few drinks (at the reception – but I’ve also been good and had several bottles and glasses of water in between – just as you taught me!). Regardless we have a nice time chatting – trading life stories and he also tells me that he has family where I live. Fast forward about an hour and a half later and we’re in my room making out and well the rest… I’m not going into details. Suffice it to say that I slept with him. But BSG, I don’t regret it, I don’t. He is a nice guy and I did feel comfortable with him… but then again, I was also drunk. I can’t say there was a strong connection… so although I’m not really regretting it (and yes, I did use protection), but I do wonder if I’m going too far?

I know that I’m not being calculating about it! Yes there is this knowledge that plenty of people hook up at conferences, and there was this cute guy I was into there. But when I got this notification from SG, I kind of felt that I should go with the flow and go with this opportunity. It felt like the smarter of “2 evils/sins” lol.

I don’t know… I’m meeting with my cousin this weekend – maybe we can explore my thought process and brain (or lack their off ;)).

Bottom line is that I want to be smart about these experiences. I want to enjoy and embrace them (maybe even learn from some of them), but I don’t want regrets.

When he left he said to me “I will be seeing you again” (in reference to the fact that he does visit my city – to visit his family). And I think I believe him, but we’ll see then if I’ll meet with him. In the meantime, he texted me after he left saying he enjoyed his time with me and then he texted me in the morning asking if he could take me out to lunch. So instead of attending the lunch provided by the conference, I had lunch with him. Again, it was nice. He would be great on paper – good solid guy, passionate about this company/industry (he owns his own business and sounds like he is doing well), ambitious, understands about parenting young kids, intelligent, funny…. BUT, I’m just not sure there is enough chemistry there. Not that it really matters! I’ve done long distance before and once was enough!

Okay… I can’t believe I stayed up this late – I can barely keep my eyes open.

‘night

Me Xx