It sucks that he is an ass!

Hi! how are you? I promised you that I won’t bother you while you’re away (seeing her). So luckily instead of sending you an email (and yes, I’m a little tipsy), I can do so via this blog. BUT before I get into what this is about, I have to get this off my chest “BSG, you suck, big time!” Seriously? You couldn’t find the time or medium to wish me a happy birthday? Really?!! First and foremost you are my friend – and that was disappointing. You could have done so via email or even Whatsapp – that doesn’t cost money while you’re overseas. Whatever… this is my forum to tell you that you disappointed me, but I won’t say that to you when I see you next month and it’s not like you’re actually going to read my blog. So at least I got this off my chest!

Anyways, back to tonight. It was 9:15 pm and I decided to call it a night and go to bed. I came back this morning from a business trip on the red eye and had limited sleep PLUS, I did think I had plans this evening, but turns out I assumed – and you know what they say about assuming (back to that in a second). I get a message via Whatsapp from this guy I met through Tinder. We were supposed to go out tomorrow but he was wondering if by any chance I was free tonight. Lo and behold, I was. He picked me up and we went out for a drink. As I sat across him and we started talking I realised we have no chemistry what so ever. Someone might tell me that I should give the guy a chance, maybe even go on a second date with him, BUT I’ve had enough experiences to know that it’s either there or not. AND all I could think of is that I wish I was with KLG, but he was an asshole to me today.

I haven’t seen hims since we slept together two weeks ago. He had a cold sore and so he didn’t want to risk it with me (as we have a hard time keeping our hands off of each other). Then I went away on business, so it’s been 2 weeks. We’ve been texting and the way we were going at it via texts, it sounded to me like he wanted to see me as soon as I was back – so I made the stupid assumption that meant the evening I was back. Anyways, I texted him after my birthday lunch date with my cousin and this is how it went:

Me: Hey there sexy!! Sleep well? 🙂

KLG: Hey there sexy!!! How was your trip and your Sangrias?

Me: Trip was good but long. Missed home. no Sangria but the Mimosa was awesome. What are you up to?

KLG: Watching soccer. When are you leaving for your trip?

Me: July X

KLG: Phew

Me: Why? Are we rescheduling?

KLG: Rescheduling….

Me: ????

KLG: I didn’t know we booked something

Me: You didn’t know we were meeting tonight?

KLG: I know you said that you would text me early but you never did. And we’d figure out if we were going to meet. Scroll up!

Me: Don’t worry about it!!

KLG: Seriously, look up

Me: All I said was that we’ll figure out how early you want to see me today. Sorry, I guess I misunderstood and thought we were meeting today. No worries! Enjoy your night!

KLG: How early? You never wrote that. I can meet you later.

Me: KLG, seriously don’t worry about it

KLG: I’m not going to beg you to see me. We never made plans. I just said I can meet you later. And if you want to run off to plan b or c, go for it.

And in my head, I was giving him the middle finger. Seriously?! I don’t need you to beg. I need you to be respectful. I don’t play games. I truthfully thought that you wanted to see me so bad that we were meeting today. BUT that’s your MO – you wait for me to come to you, and for me to make the plans or tell you when we are meeting. No wonder that at the ripe age of 41 you have never been engaged, married or lived with someone. BUT, it sucks. Because as I was on this date tonight, all I could think of is that I would rather be with KLG – as the chemistry (and me wanting to jump him) is so strong!!  And it’s not like I even want a relationship with this guy because he is an ass. And although I did enjoy having sex with him, it wasn’t my best!

And the sad reality is that I have yet to meet that guy with whom I have such a strong connection that I want to call him up and share my day’s anecdotes with.

Unfortunately that guy still remains you, BSG 😦

Me Xxx

Hi!

(Sigh)… BSG what am I doing? It’s 3:20 am and I’m drunk and should really be asleep. Instead I’m emailing you (as usual). I don’t think I’ll be making it to the gym and I hope I make it to the Keynote at 9am.

So… What’s going on? I didn’t realize that Tinder matches based on your real-time current location. I thought that if it knows that I live in City X, it will only match me with people in my area (based on the km range I inputted). Boy was I wrong!

During last night’s reception at a conference I’m attending I was drinking and chatting up with some of the girls I met there. I was telling them about my experience with Tinder and they wanted me to show them the app and explain how it works. Well just as I was about to do that I got a notification that someone Super Liked Me. Well… I don’t get excited about these because to date everyone who has Super Liked Me to date wasn’t my type physically. So I open up the app and swipe left until I get to the guy who Super Liked Me. Well… he was a decent looking guy plus it looked like he had a son and he was my age. So to show my new conference friends how the app worked I actually swiped to the right (so that they could see how the “you’ve been matched” comes up). I didn’t think more of it as most often than not, the men don’t make the first move. Well…. a few hours later as we’re all getting comfortable to enjoy a late dinner at a local favourite I suddenly get notification that – let’s call him SG – has messaged me. So while we’re perusing the menu and making decisions SG and I text one another. Within minutes I realise that he lives in the city where I’m attending my conference. But, he still wants to meet me (the cultural connection that we have attracts him… among other things of course ;)). So I agree to meet him later that night at the hotel’s lobby bar. My new friends are privy to what’s going on and two of the women who are staying at the same hotel as I am offer to have drinks at the lobby bar and keep an eye on me/him to ensure it’s all legit and not creepy

About an hour and a half later we meet for a drink at the hotel’s lobby bar and have a fairly good conversation. Now at that point I had a few drinks (at the reception – but I’ve also been good and had several bottles and glasses of water in between – just as you taught me!). Regardless we have a nice time chatting – trading life stories and he also tells me that he has family where I live. Fast forward about an hour and a half later and we’re in my room making out and well the rest… I’m not going into details. Suffice it to say that I slept with him. But BSG, I don’t regret it, I don’t. He is a nice guy and I did feel comfortable with him… but then again, I was also drunk. I can’t say there was a strong connection… so although I’m not really regretting it (and yes, I did use protection), but I do wonder if I’m going too far?

I know that I’m not being calculating about it! Yes there is this knowledge that plenty of people hook up at conferences, and there was this cute guy I was into there. But when I got this notification from SG, I kind of felt that I should go with the flow and go with this opportunity. It felt like the smarter of “2 evils/sins” lol.

I don’t know… I’m meeting with my cousin this weekend – maybe we can explore my thought process and brain (or lack their off ;)).

Bottom line is that I want to be smart about these experiences. I want to enjoy and embrace them (maybe even learn from some of them), but I don’t want regrets.

When he left he said to me “I will be seeing you again” (in reference to the fact that he does visit my city – to visit his family). And I think I believe him, but we’ll see then if I’ll meet with him. In the meantime, he texted me after he left saying he enjoyed his time with me and then he texted me in the morning asking if he could take me out to lunch. So instead of attending the lunch provided by the conference, I had lunch with him. Again, it was nice. He would be great on paper – good solid guy, passionate about this company/industry (he owns his own business and sounds like he is doing well), ambitious, understands about parenting young kids, intelligent, funny…. BUT, I’m just not sure there is enough chemistry there. Not that it really matters! I’ve done long distance before and once was enough!

Okay… I can’t believe I stayed up this late – I can barely keep my eyes open.

‘night

Me Xx